Tuesday, 3 December 2013

Making Friends With Ambitious People


How To Make Friends With Ambitious People

If you’re trying to take yourself and your life to the next level, it makes a lot of sense to aim higher when it comes to making friends. The right friends will support you emotional and provide practical help along the way.
If you have exiting friends that aren’t as ambitious as you are, chances are that they’re unconsciously holding you back. You don’t have to stop seeing them right away; your best bet is to focus on building friendships with new people.
If you want to make friends with ambitious people, read on. In this article, I would like to share with you three important steps. These steps will help you go to the next level in your social life, meet many ambitious and interesting people, and have them stick around for a long time.

Step #1 – Take Control Of Your Social Life, Don’t Leave It To Chance

People seem to leave their friendship life to chance, more often than not. While that probably worked well when you were a kid, it most certainly won’t work for you, as an adult. With no college or school to facilitate new friendships, you need to be proactive about it.
This means that you get conscious and curious about friendship and how it works; consciously make time, every week, for meeting new people, staying in touch, and hanging out with them.
Studies have shown that the influence other people have on you is strong; your destiny literally depends on the people you hang out with. This is why it’s important to have a clear idea of the kind people you want to have in your life.
All you have to do is a make a general list of qualities, attributes, or activities that you want in your future friends. It doesn’t have to be definitive; it’s just a guide for your mind. You can start by listing qualities like “healthy, ambitious, honest, productive, fun, interesting, etc.”

Step #2 – Adopt These Winning Social Habits
Success in your friendship life means that you don’t only use the tips once in a while; it means that you adopt the easy new habits that will work on a consistent basis.
The first habit is to go meet new people every month. The way to do that is to join a local community that meets up once or twice every month. Try a few that you can find on meetup.com and decide on the one that has the kind of people you like. In general, go where meeting people is easy; focus on places like trade shows, cultural or charitable events, seminars and talks, and so on.
The second habit is to dedicate at least one hour every week to reaching out to people. You can put it in your calendar; it can be something like every Wednesday, 7pm. Early in the week is better. Here, you contact all the important people, by phone, text, or email. This habit will make sure you don’t lose touch with your existing friends, and follow up with the new people you meet, soon enough.
The third habit is to decide what you’re going to do over the weekend, ahead of time. When it’s time to reach out to people, plan ahead and decide on what you want to do; suggest that plan to those you want to see. This is why it’s important that you contact people early enough in the week, when they haven’t already decided what to do on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday.

Step #3 – Build A Social Circle
Making friends can be time-consuming if you don’t optimize your efforts. If you’re always the one calling and making plans, then you’re not going to be doing it for very long. The best way to tackle this is to focus on forming groups of friends, instead of having a bunch of friends that don’t know each other.
I recommend that you always introduce the people that you know to each other; especially if they’re of the ambitious kind. After they meet once or twice, a new group emerges, and you now have a circle of friends.
When that happens, they start to call and make plans as well, which means you’ll have more time to contact and make plans with people that you don’t know that well. As you meet new people, introduce them to the existing group, and make it bigger.
If you prefer to meet in small groups, then it’s a great thing as well; you can still meet two or three people at the same time, even if your social circle has dozens of people in it.

Wrapping Up
These three steps will get you started in having ambitious, resourceful friends that will help you succeed, introduce people to you, and emotionally support you when you need it.
What’s really important is to open your mind to learning about friendship, how it works, and how you can apply that information in your life.

Read more at http://www.careerealism.com/make-friends-ambitious-people/#ZTAvzyLx6yJ6w8wr.99

Wednesday, 20 November 2013

10 Principles For Becoming A Successful Person/Leader



An e-buddy of mine was in Lagos on 27th October, 2013 and all thanks to God and Comedian Wazobia FM OAP, YAW who helped me to attend the Lagos Empowerment and Resource Network “Time out with the Youth” organised by First Lady of Lagos State, Dame Abimbola Fashola (L.E.A.R.N) and it had a great mentor, preacher and orator as the guest speaker, in person of Dr.Myles Munroe. I learnt alot that day because it changed me and I also decided to publish this online for people who weren’t present there. After you read this, take it to action and when I see you again, you won’t be the same person.
NOTE: Every human Being was created to be a leader but not over people.
Let me tell you a story about Myles Munroe, When he was age 16, he started speaking on Leadership and at age 17, the prime minister of his state called his mother’s phone and said “I’d Like to meet your son, Myles went ahead to see him. The prime minister said to him  “Do you know you have more influence in my country than I do? Myles was shocked and embarrassed and he replied “ Mr Prime Minister, you are the president of this country, how can a 17years old boy be more powerful than you?
And he said “Son you can bring together 5000people in a place without them smoking  cigarette, take alcohol and they all gather to listen to you, I can never bring together5000 teenagers in my country, they will never listen to me, and they are the future of my country
and you young man control the future of my country. Can you tell me your secret? Myles replied “ Sir I don’t know, I just gather them to tell them what happened in my life, I was in a family of 13, A father, A mother, and 11 children. I remember when I was sleeping on the floor with mosquito bitting me and roaches everywhere and my teacher in school told me “Am ignorant, I cannot learn anything, Am retarded and am black, am not real human and he is just wasting his time teaching me, I went to my mum and told her what the teacher told me and my mum said Son never say that again and she gave me a book and in that book I learnt who I am and ten principles I needed to possess and that is what made me. My teacher told me Blacks are monkeys and not human, and he said am a monkey..
After reading the book I went from F to A’s and was the best student in high school, I got an award and I gave it to the teacher who called me a Monkey, and i told him am a smart monkey, he was embarrassed and he said How did you do it?
NOTE: Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. Every Human wants to succeed!
No one decides to fail, we all want to achieve. Do you know that your success is good For God? God needs you to succeed. Every manufacturer who makes a product wants the
product to succeed. God design seed to be successful to bring forth tree. Seed into the soil and with water and sunlight help the seed to succeed.
You need some principles to succeed!

WHAT ARE THE TEN PRINCIPLES?

1) PURPOSE: Purpose is the original reason for the creation of a thing. E.g A bird was created by God to fly. If it doesn’t fly then it hasn’t fulfil its purpose. You were born to do
something very special, if you don’t find your gift and don’t discover what you are born to do, then you have failed. You must discover your purpose. The reason behind your creation. Success is measured by what you are born to do. Your purpose is the ideas that keeps coming to your mind. Your purpose is what you complain alot and needs to be changed in your country. The same way a bird is trapped in flight, Your purpose is trapped in you.
DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE.

2) PASSION: Passion is the desire stronger than opposition, disappointment and death. A  person with passion doesn’t need external motivation, A person with passion is someone who is willing to lose friends, sacrifice thier pleasures, doesn’t need alarm clock to wake, A
person with passion doesn’t get bored because life itself is really for living. Passion is when you discover your purpose for living.

3) PLANNING: Planning is writing your dream in a piece of paper. If you don’t document your dream you don’t want to achieve. Someone asked “How do you know if your dream is the right dream?” Here’s the answer, if your dream only benefits you then its not from God, True vision and true dreams always benefits others around you. A young boy was asked
“ What’s your dream” He replied “I have a dream to own a 10room apartment next to the beach, Travel all around the world, eat whatever I want to eat.. That is not a vision, its a personal ambition. Get a dream in your heart to help other people. Don’t follow personal ambition. You must put your purpose and passion on Paper.

4) PRINCIPLES: You must live by principles if you are going to be successful. What are the
principles? LAWS! You must live by principle to protect your purpose. For example, Myles Munroe lived in a neighbourhood where people smoke cigarette, marijuana and take all sort of alcohols, he never snuffed a marijuana leaf, or drink alcohol or smoke cigarette. When they offer him these things, he remembered he wrote his dreams on paper. He knows
when he smoke its gonna hurt his liver, and he is gonna lose his dream. A young girl wants to have sex with him, it sounds good, but he remember he wrote his dreams on paper and when he sleep with her and she gets pregnant, He would be forced to marry her. So he told her, I can’t sleep with you, my dream is more important than Sex. Principles are what you painfully decides and you are not violating.

5) PEOPLE: If you want to be successful, you must choose the right people to be in your life. Some of you have friends before reading this, if you read well, you will change your friend after reading this. Who is a friend? A friend is anyone who can help you fulfil your dreams, who can take you to your destiny, who can help you achieve your vision. If you have a friend who can’t help you to achieve your vision, or can’t take you to your destiny or can’t help you to fulfill your dream is NOT a friend. If your friend tells you, let’s go drink alcohols, he is not a friend, they only want to cancel your dream, You must tell your friends, I read this article and I made some changes and one of the changes I made was YOU. Check your friends out. If you are the smartest amongst your friend, you have to change the group, you need to be among people that can make you grow, ask you question and help you think bigger. You can outgrow your friend. People who are doing nothing wants you to do it them. People who are going nowhere wants you to go with them. I want you to tell them GOODBYE. Your future is determined by the friends you keep. You cannot choose your brothers and sisters but you can choose your friends. Friends are more important than brothers and sisters. King Solomon said brothers and sister are for adversity but friends would love you at all times. Don’t be with people who don’t believe your vision. You can be the next president of this country but someone would want you to smoke, drink alcohol  have sex and destroy your dream. Protect your dream from people who would destroy it. People can either help you or hurt you. There are 4 types of people

  - Multipliers: Those who multiply to your dream
  - Substract: Those who distract you and substract from your dream.
  -Divide: Those who divide from you and confuse you.
  -Add: Those who add to your dream
  I am here to multiply to your dreams… Am a good friend!
A book can be the best friend in your life. Books are good people. Lock the door, turn off the T.V and speak to a friend through the pages of a book. Stop wasting time and read books.
They can keep friend with you. The Eagle is the most successful bird in the world. Eagles fly alone, they don’t fly with any other birds. If you are going to be a successful young man,
stay away from the crowd, scare away from the gang.

6) PERSISTENCE: You insist on getting what you dream, you lost everything, people left you, people disappointed you but never lost your dream. Persistence is when you decide no matter what happens am coming back.

7) PATIENCE: No one is  successful in a day/year. Patience is postponing the fulfilment of
pleasures. Patience is not complaining, patience is working while you are waiting, Patience is preparing yourself for which you are preparing to recieve. My friend asked me (Myles Munroe) what you going to do after high school, i said i want to go to college,He said he wants to go and work in the gas station and in 4years he will have more money. I knew i didn’t have money but i was patience, My elder sister saw my dream on paper and gave me all the money that she saved for her house and I used the money to go to school, I knew I needed a scholarship and I studied to get a 4.0. your problem is not money, start somewhere. Good news: My company is one of the largest and my sister is the administrative assistant. Do you know who pays her salary? Her younger brother, Do you know who is my financial director?, Her husband. Do you know who is the director of multimedia liveshow, Her daughter. She never knew she gave that money to her boss. Be nice to someone today.

8) PERSEVERANCE: Perseverance is gettting up after you fall down. Every successful person is a result of getting back up. If you lose all your money, all your friends, Get back up. Never trust a person who hasn’t survived anything. A hard hands is what you pay to set  your people free. Imagine the life of Nelson Mandela. You will never be accepted until you  are being totally rejected. When you talk you learn what you know, when you listen you
learn what the other man knows, when you are in the midst of great people, Don’t talk, but  ask questions. Stop trying to make an easy life, do what is right all the time.

9) POSTERITY: The next generation. If you are going to be a successful man/woman, success is measured by what you do for others. Is your dream big enough for the unborn to enjoy it? Think about your dreams, can you transfer what you are doing to the next generation. Success always think of posterity.

10) PRAYER: It is the most important one. Prayer is daily consulting the one who gave you
number one (PURPOSE). God is important, no one knows a product like the manufacturer.  You must spend time with him more than anybody else. When you are reading, stop and talk to the manufacturer, when you are driving, talk to him and sometimes don’t talk, Just listen!
Note: Do not seek success, seek to become a person of value. Make yourself valuable by discovering your gift and your dream. Your gift would attract people to you. You were not born for yourself, you were born for us. Do you know that the cemetery is the wealthiest place on earth. Why?
Because there in the cemetery are books that were never written, in the grave yard, there are music that were never heard, there are poetry that were never being read, In the cemetery we have dreams that died as night mares. In the graveyard there are schools that never opened, In the grave yard, there are great men who died as alcoholics, In the grave yard there are great women who died as prostitute and drug addicts. The grave yard is so wealthy. It is that same grave yard that made me writes this, because I don’t want the grave yard to get an awesome treasure. I wrote this to tell you, don’t take your dreams, your books, your vision, your ideas to the cemetery. I wrote this to help you die empty. I wrote this because I want you to disappoint the cemetery. I want you to die like a man that said “I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. SEE YOU AT THE TOP!!!!!

These Principles were taught by Myles Munroe at L.E.A.R.N “Time out with the youth” at LTV 27th October, 2013.

Extracted from Bello Timilehin's piece

Monday, 14 October 2013

GRACE - GOD FINDING A SOLUTION BEFORE WE EVEN UNDERSTAND IT IS A PROBLEM


    "Soon afterward Jesus went with his disciples to the village of Nain...The young man who had died was a widow’s only son, and a large crowd from the village was with her. When the Lord saw her, his heart overflowed with compassion. “Don’t cry!” he said. Then he walked over to the coffin and touched it, and the bearers stopped. “Young man,” he said, “I tell you, get up.” Then the dead boy sat up and began to talk! And Jesus gave him back to his mother"- Luke 7:11-14

WHY WOULD JESUS HELP A PERSON WHO DID NOT EVEN ASK FOR HELP? WHY DID JESUS CHRIST NOT REQUIRE THAT SHE TYPED OR SHOUT AMEN FOR HER MIRACLE TO COME?
Again Isaiah 65:24; "I will answer them before they even call to me. While they are still talking about their needs, I will go ahead and answer their prayers!"
IN truth;
1. How many divine intervention have we received without even asking?
2. How will our life be if we have to ask God for everything before things are done- how hard are we going to need to work and pray?
3. How many times did God’s gracious compassion step in to change things on our behalf that we now think that God needs us to be devastated first before He will respond?
Questions I can't even answer adequately. Nevertheless, unique characteristics of the God of the Bible show forth. This unique characteristic is that He is LOVE and through His grace reveals this Love. The Bible says He is the God of all grace.1 Peter 5:10; "And the God of all grace...."
In other words, no other god has grace- only the God who revealed Himself through Jesus Christ is the God of all grace. Grace is God qualifying us for what we do not naturally qualify for and only a God whose personality is LOVE can do that. I SAY IT AGAIN NO OTHER GOD OR RELIGION HAS THE DOCTRINE OF GRACE.
From Genesis to Revelation- His gracious characters are revealed. The scriptures says; "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" Romans 5:8.
Grace means while we were still sinners, God stepped in to change things in our favour. We did not counsel Him to save us- He demonstrated His love towards us. Love made Him step in WHILE WE WERE STILL SINNERS.
We cannot change by ourselves, God sent Jesus Christ who died, and rose again on the third day to bear upon Himself all that has cast us away from His expressive Love. Before Jesus Christ died, we were all cast away from where His love can be directly poured on us all.
The God of all grace LOVES you and offered to die so that the penalty of your sins would not come upon you and you can gain access to God’s grace.
All you need is to accept you are a sinner and ask Jesus Christ to save you because He died and rose to save all who come to Him. Will you do that today?
Everyone who have called upon Him have placed themselves at the centre of His attention. Our prayers is not just what does the miracles, our prayers is an expression of our relationship with the God who loves us enough to rescue us when we could not rescue ourselves. That is the message we carry- THERE IS A GOD WHO LOVES SINNERS SO MUCH THAT HE WILLINGLY GAVE HIS SON- JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE SINNERS EVEN WHEN THEY COULD NOT HELP THEMSELVES.
How can God die? God became man for nobody could kill God.
Jesus testified; "No one can take my life from me. I sacrifice it voluntarily. For I have the authority to lay it down when I want to and also to take it up again. For this is what my Father has commanded"(John 10:18).

I OFFER YOU TODAY WHAT I HAVE COME TO KNOW- THE GOD OF THE BIBLE LOVES AND HE IS IN FACT LOVE. HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH AND HE HAS DONE EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO JUSTLY PAY FOR THE WAGES OF SINS BY HIS DEATH, BURIAL AND RESURRECTION. I offer to you the "One Who existed from the beginning, whom we have heard... He is the Word of life. This One Who is life itself was revealed to us" and He is Jesus Christ. He is full of Grace and truth for He is the God of all grace. No one else in the World will offer you grace. Grace is not found in any religion-will you call upon Him today? I love to let you know that- The God of the Bible is the God of all grace- he owns grace. No other will show you grace. Grace is what will help you to say No to ungodliness and unrighteousness- Yes you can have peace through this grace that Jesus Christ gives. World religions say that Jesus is all good, He is a powerful person, He is a prophet, He is a mess anger but he didn't die on the cross- He is more than good, He is more than a prophet or messenger- the Bible says- "HE IS FULL OF GRACE AND TRUTH". The reason why religions deny His death is not because of lack of historical evidence but because the Satan knows to accept that Jesus truly died, will unlock HIS GRACE upon anyone. For in His death and resurrection is a demonstration of His loving grace. He is grace and my friend grace is what you need. And you do not need to do anything- just receive this grace by accepting Jesus Christ into your life and situation.
Calling upon Jesus Christ to save you is not difficult. If Jesus Christ is unreal then you have nothing to worry about, if you call upon Him to save you and if He is real you will know. Shalom!

Luke 7:11-14; "Soon afterward Jesus went with his disciples to the village of Nain, and a large crowd followed him. A funeral procession was coming out as he approached the village gate. The young man who had died was a widow’s only son, and a large crowd from the village was with her. When the Lord saw her, his heart overflowed with compassion. “Don’t cry!” he said. Then he walked over to the coffin and touched it, and the bearers stopped. “Young man,” he said, “I tell you, get up.” Then the dead boy sat up and began to talk! And Jesus gave him back to his mother"
Written by: Bishop Ponle Alabi 

Hindrances To Becoming Wealthy



Everyone dream of becoming a wealthy person in life sooner or later in life; but only few, I mean few out of countless wealthy-dreamers are wealthy today.
I will like to share with us some of the things I discovered could be of help to us all as aspiring Sons and Daughters of God-Who has given us the power to make wealth.
Almost on a daily basis I come across people who have different reasons why their financial status or future will not make sense. They don’t even understand where they are or what the future should hold for them. “Wealth is your birthright but you won’t realize your financial potential if you allow limiting beliefs and obstacles to hold you back”. Deolu Akinyemi

The fact remains that when you set the sails God will send the wind. Here are a few things you need to deal with if you must achieve your set financial goals before the end of this year:

Mindset: The greatest hindrance to prosperity is believing that only some people can be wealthy. People that are not wealthy must first buy into the error that poverty is default. How so wrong!

Financial Knowledge: What you don’t know can kill you, ignorance is darkness. A man who is ignorant of his ignorance has achieved the minimum qualification required in the college of fools. Seek financial intelligence, read books, get a coach because everybody needs one and commit yourself to daily learning.

Poor management of expenses: Inability to manage your expense will lead to poverty. About 90% of the world’s population spend more than they earn and that keeps them on the RAT RACE. If you spend more than you earn you’re simply borrowing from your future to spend now. Learn to live on not more than 50% of your income, most wealthy people live on 35%.

Lack of Reserves: Lack of savings and investment culture will not give room to wealth. Learn to pay yourself from every income you make, put it away in an escrow account so you can invest in assets that will put money back into your pocket.

Lack of Passion: Lack of passion and dedication to your goals will also rub you of wealth or God-ordained riches.

Lack of a Mentor: Everybody needs a coach to guide his/her journey to financial freedom. Seek for an experienced and willing mentor.

Your Network: I say to people that “Your Network Determines Your Net Worth”. Lack of right association can severely limit your possibilities for gaining wealth.

Average Mentality: An average or mediocre spirit cannot control great wealth. There is no room for average plans here.
I believe if you can diligently apply all stated above your life will take a new turn.

Remember:"...above all I wish that you prosper"
Our learning continues...
Shalom

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