How To Make Friends With
Ambitious People
If you’re
trying to take yourself and your life to the next level, it makes a lot of
sense to aim higher when it comes to making friends. The right friends will
support you emotional and provide practical help along the way.
If you have exiting friends that aren’t as ambitious as you are,
chances are that they’re unconsciously holding you back. You don’t have to stop
seeing them right away; your best bet is to focus on building friendships with
new people.
If you want to make friends with ambitious people, read on. In
this article, I would like to share with you three important steps. These steps
will help you go to the next level in your social life, meet many ambitious and
interesting people, and have them stick around for a long time.
Step #1 – Take Control Of Your Social Life, Don’t
Leave It To Chance
People seem to leave their friendship life to chance, more often
than not. While that probably worked well when you were a kid, it most
certainly won’t work for you, as an adult. With no college or school to
facilitate new friendships, you need to be proactive about it.
This means that you get conscious and curious about friendship and
how it works; consciously make time, every week, for meeting new people,
staying in touch, and hanging out with them.
Studies have shown that the influence other people have on you is
strong; your destiny literally depends on the people you hang out with. This is
why it’s important to have a clear idea of the kind people you want to have in
your life.
All you have to do is a make a general list of qualities,
attributes, or activities that you want in your future friends. It doesn’t have
to be definitive; it’s just a guide for your mind. You can start by listing
qualities like “healthy, ambitious, honest, productive, fun, interesting, etc.”
Step #2 – Adopt These Winning Social Habits
Success in your friendship life means that you don’t only use the
tips once in a while; it means that you adopt the easy new habits that will
work on a consistent basis.
The first habit is to go meet new people every month. The way to do that
is to join a local community that meets up once or twice every month. Try a few
that you can find on meetup.com and decide on the one that has the kind of
people you like. In general, go where meeting people is easy; focus on places
like trade shows, cultural or charitable events, seminars and talks, and so on.
The second habit is to dedicate at least one hour every week to
reaching out to people. You can put it in your calendar; it can be something
like every Wednesday, 7pm. Early in the week is better. Here, you contact all
the important people, by phone, text, or email. This habit will make sure you
don’t lose touch with your existing friends, and follow up with the new people
you meet, soon enough.
The third habit is to decide what you’re going to do over the
weekend, ahead of time. When it’s time to reach out to people, plan ahead and
decide on what you want to do; suggest that plan to those you want to see. This
is why it’s important that you contact people early enough in the week, when
they haven’t already decided what to do on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday.
Step #3 – Build A Social Circle
Making friends can be time-consuming if you don’t optimize your
efforts. If you’re always the one calling and making plans, then you’re not
going to be doing it for very long. The best way to tackle this is to focus on
forming groups of friends, instead of having a bunch of friends that don’t know
each other.
I recommend that you always introduce the people that you know to
each other; especially if they’re of the ambitious kind. After they meet once
or twice, a new group emerges, and you now have a circle of friends.
When that happens, they start to call and make plans as well,
which means you’ll have more time to contact and make plans with people that
you don’t know that well. As you meet new people, introduce them to the
existing group, and make it bigger.
If you prefer to meet in small groups, then it’s a great thing as
well; you can still meet two or three people at the same time, even if your
social circle has dozens of people in it.
Wrapping Up
These three steps will get you started in having ambitious,
resourceful friends that will help you succeed, introduce people to you, and
emotionally support you when you need it.
What’s really important is to open your mind to learning about
friendship, how it works, and how you can apply that information in your life.
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